First I want to say GREAT JOB JOE!!!!
This is a little post about a 7 yr. old boy named Joe. This is Kathy’s youngest son. Now he takes Karate lessons and they were going to have a kick-a-thon to help support a charity for kids. Joe asked me if I’d sponsor him and the recommended sponsorship was to pay per kick. So I told him that I’d pay him 5 cents per kick. He was cool with that (that’s what the norm was, besides a flat rate to give him.)
I asked Joe how many kicks he got in practice…he said 140. I said great. So he goes on to say about how that’s how many kicks he’s gonna get…..140. I said well hang on there….you already KNOW you can do 140, right? He said yeah. I said well I will give you .05 per kick on one condition..he said what? I said I want you to at least TRY to get 150 kicks. If you don’t make it that’s fine, but I want you to at least try, because we both already know you can do 140. Ok? He said that was a deal.
So today was the kick-a-thon. Joe was leaving to go with his mom (I couldn’t go because I had to take Brandon, the 17 yr. old his meds that he forgot) and I said so how many kicks you gonna get? He said 300! I said really? He said nah, 200? I said no really, how many kicks are you gonna try for? He said, 140. I said oh no…remember, you have to at least TRY to get 150 kicks, remember? He said oh yeah…ok. Then I wished him good luck and they were out the door.
About 15 minutes later I get a text from Kathy saying this: “U should challenge joe more often lol he did 300 kicks.”
And that was exactly the point of the challenge…..to make him realize that once you know you can do something to try to challenge yourself to do just a lil more….you’d be amazed at what you can accomplish if you did that. Don’t just settle for what you KNOW you can do. Try to do just a lil more.
Now, technically I owe Joe $15 for his charity and I will give him that but I’m gonna give him a lil bonus for himself personally to put in his jars (remember the book, Secrets of the Millionaire Mind?)
I think this is a cute lil story for us to remember and reflect on. Let’s not forget to challenge ourselves and our kids. I honestly believe that a lot of kids are lazy as hell nowadays and most of it I blame on the parents. Let’s get back to challenging our kids, holding them accountable for their actions and inactions and also rewarding them for challenging themselves, etc.
Kathy and I come from 2 different schools when it comes to parenting..grant it, they are HER kids and they are just my step-kids (I know we’re not married, but we would be if it was legal, so trust me, these boys have 2 moms ) She’s more of the “I’m their mom I want to do EVERYTHING for them and take care of them forever because they need me for everything” side of things and I’m more of the “They can do it themselves……they need to learn to do things on their own someday and they can do it now if you just LET THEM!” (Especially the 17 yr. old….he’s gonna be 18 in January and he’s helpless without his mom, so he’s taking the most work right now lol from BOTH of us.)
It’s amazing the things that go on in a kids head when you show him that he can make his own peanut butter and jelly sandwich! Or he can sleep in his own bed! Or that they can make something called passive income where you don’t have to go to work 40 hrs. a week for your money! Btw, the 9 yr. old gets this concept wayyy better than the 17 yr. old. And I let him know too….I think it challenges him to listen more and pay more attention when we talk about money and investing. hehehe
The challenge with us, is that every other week Joe goes to his dad’s house. And at dear old dad’s house he has zero discipline, zero challenge, and he gets told that all of our ideas and rules are dumb. Like passive income and the no video game Thursday rule. So that’s our challenge….luckily it doesn’t take the kid long to adjust to this world when he leaves la-la land with dad.
As for Brandon, he lives with us full-time now….he refuses to go to his dad’s house (if you read my flippinghomes.com blog before you’ll know that I mentioned there that it was just a matter of time before Brandon came to us and said he didn’t want to go to his dads house anymore.) He’s making progress with the whole discipline thing, just not so much with the money thing….but I think he may start listening more because he’s got a girlfriend now and he’s learning that they can be expensive lol
Sooo I’ll stop rambling and just ask you all, myself included, to continue to challenge yourself and your kids.