Laid Off! Stress! Bam!

Posted on 28. Oct, 2009 by in Random Ramblings

I get a text from Kathy this morning telling me that she just got laid off. Now you need to understand that I haven’t technically had a “REAL” job for quite some time now and the last job that I had I got fired at the day before xmas in 2006. From that point on I went into real estate FULL TIME. Oh and I only worked at that particular job for a year and prior to that I was a full time licensed agent…so I was use to not having a consistent paycheck, so going right into real estate full time was cool for me.

Kathy on the other hand, has errr had a 6 figure income and has always had a job, job….always had a consistent pay check. So we just talked on the phone and she doesn’t sound as upset as I thought she would but I was telling her that now it’s a great opportunity for you. Just like when I got fired I saw it as a great opportunity for me and I was actually thankful. It may be a little harder for her to see things that way because all she knows really is her job. She is a senior clinical research person for pharmaceutical companies. She, of course, has a nursing degree and could always go back to being an RN if she wanted to.

But I do really hope that she realizes that she can make it without a job. I mean a f/t 40 hr. structured job. She does the same p/t thing that I’ve been doing the year I left investing……and I know she can make her same income with that if she really put her mind to it. I really hope she goes for her because I want her to see that if SHE works hard and is good with her money and pays the bills with it, etc. and invests portions of it every month on passive income, etc. that she may never need that f/t structured 40 hr. a week job again. I know that she’s not really of that personality type, but she is definitely getting the passive income thang…so she’s making progress.

I just told her that we had to come up with a budget, a plan and some goals to implement. And she just sighed. She hates when I talk about that stuff….it’s just not in her personality. I said but realize that you probably were holding yourself back in life because you refused to do those things in the past. She said “I guess.”

Oh and please don’t think I’m being hard on her…..I am very supportive of anything she chooses to do and I’ve been treading lightly today. I just want us both to be people that don’t rely on JOBS. I can tell you right now that I’ll be working my ass off even harder with real estate now.

You see when I got fired before my mortgage was about $500 a month and I had zero debt :-) So it wasn’t that big of a deal. It was just me and my 3 cats living at home. Very minimal bills so I didn’t have to do that much real estate to get by (and I know, I know, I shouldn’t have just been trying to “get by” but I’ve learned that lesson as well.) But nowww is a whole different story.

Our mortgage is wayyyy more than $500 a month, it’s not just me and my 3 cats anymore….it’s me, my 3 cats, Kathy, her 2 kids and her kitten. It’s a whole house and family! Soooooo definitely will be working more. I know that I can do it and make it happen, I just hope Kathy can figure out that she can do things too and make it happen.

I’m sure I’ll be getting a whole lot more stressed right now and that sucks because stress triggers heart burn and I’ve been doing so well without heart burn meds and not having heart burn. *sigh* I still don’t want to take meds but I really don’t want to feel stress because I don’t know how many of you have heart burn, acid reflux or gerd, but they gave me all of those diagnoses and let me tell you it doesn’t feel good…any of it. So I’m gonna have to try to keep the stress away.

Ok I gotta get a shower and get on the friggin ball.

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3 Responses to “Laid Off! Stress! Bam!”

  1. Scott Costello

    29. Oct, 2009

    Sorry to hear about Kathy getting laid off. You are supporting her well. It is always a bit frustrating when your significant other doesn’t think the same way you do when it comes to a JOB.

  2. jp moses

    29. Oct, 2009

    Hey, that sucks! But also, kudos to you for trying to help her see the opportunity lying within her misfortune.

    Is that a positive mental attitude I’m smelling, or what? :-)

    …jp

  3. Flippin' Carey

    30. Oct, 2009

    Thanks guys…..I know she’s definitely come along way in her “thinking” since she met me. At first my “job” lifestyle, I’ll call it lol, was a lil uncomfortable for her to deal with but ya know what?

    She’s sooo super supportive of me now it’s amazing. I’ve never been with someone who was so supportive of everything I chose to do in life, career wise. Because well it was something they weren’t familiar with.

    She’s definitely getting it more now too. I think she’ll be ok with “trying” a new way of earning money. Whether she can stomach it or not…only time will tell.

    She agreed that tomorrow we would sit down and develop a plan, budget and goals. I’m super duper excited for both of us!

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